In the Success book “Think and Grow Rich” there is a section titled “The 31 Major Causes of Failure”. Within those causes, the number 15 cause of failure is “Wrong Selection of a Mate in Marriage”. An excerpt from the book states:
“This is a most common cause of failure. The relationship of marriage brings people intimately into contact. Unless this relationship is harmonious, failure is likely to follow. Moreover, it will be a form of failure that is marked by misery and unhappiness, destroying all signs of ambition.”
Most people spend a lot of time working on increasing their success. They take on a new business venture, go back to school, read books from successful people, go to seminars and so on.
Most of those same people (who diligently search for success) neglect to spend anytime trying to understand the best way to go about choosing a mate. They figure “ahh that will work itself out,” or “I’ll just know.” However, when they end up with the wrong person, or having challenges with the right person, they start to notice that they are not seeing the results they want in their professional, spriitual,
It’s as if this boat called life is slowly sinking. You see water filling up in the boat, so you grab a bucket and use it to collect the water and pour it over board. This example is the same as studying and working hard to achieve success in other areas of your life. Eventually you realize that if you took a little time to plug the hole (understanding effective dating and relationships), your boat would be capable of taking you to your destination of success.
Some people are in a relationship right now and need to plug the hole of their sinking boat. Others have not stepped into the boat yet and should make sure there are no holes. Either way, you can do what most people do and just use the cross finger theory hoping it works out. I guess that’s one reason why so many people have such a loss of ambition, causing them to never really chase their dreams.