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Dating And Relationship Advice: You Asked But Didn’t Listen


Dating And Relationship Advice: You Asked But Didn’t Listen (Written by Jasmine Davis: Clinical Psychology Doctoral Student and educator of Human Sexuality.)     Years ago an ex-boyfriend of mine told me “Don’t ask questions that you don’t want to know the answers to. And don’t go looking for things you don’t really want to find.” He was a cheater. Still, he’s right. However, this post is not about cheating. His words apply to so many things, and they came to […]

What’s Gotten Into You?


   I recently had a a personal session with a young lady participating in my 6 week workshop. I challenged her to start identifying the things that have influenced her love life. Often times people don’t realize that their focus is on something that doesn’t serve them in any way. In most cases people don’t even know this never mind work on changing it. Television, Movies, music, social media and a list of other things constantly fight for mental real estate […]

Think Your Way Out Of Your Current Situation


  One of my clients had to spend a few days in the hospital. She mentioned to me that she was ready to leave, but had no idea how long they would keep her in the hospital. Below is what I shared with her and her response just a day later:   TREO “I want you to take at least 30 minutes to close your eyes and really imagine walking out of the hospital tomorrow. In your mind, I want you to map out […]

What Destination Do You Have In Your Love GPS?


  TREO We all have an idea of what we think love should be. Usually we get that idea from the things we have seen, heard and experienced. I love this short story from a young lady in our 60/40 workshop because it shows how sometimes we can discover our beliefs and challenge them if we choose to. What we believe shapes our life.   Her Words… So I spent some time as of late dating. After doing some personal […]

Who Is Writing Your Love Story?


  Jasmine is a Clinical Psychology Doctoral Student and educator of Human Sexuality. She finds that helping people with serious problems daily is rewarding, but the very interesting and sometimes comical problems come from love, sex, and relationships. She gives her take on all three. It’s not therapy, but its therapeutic, and you can even sit on your own couch.   Love story Once upon a time. Happily Ever After. Most people are familiar with these phrases. For those who are not […]

Finding Your Balance By Falling


  A few weeks ago I decided to go out in the snow storm to clean off my wife’s and my car. That is when it happened. I stepped on a large patch of ice. It happened so quickly that I didn’t even have time to think. One thing was for sure, there was no one around to see my potentially catastrophic event. How often do people try to play something off and they end up making their fall ten […]

Where Are All The Good Men?


      I hear this question from my clients often.  I can almost hear the heartfelt doubt in their voice. I can feel their burning desire to finally find the man that will help transform their life. The mere statement in itself displays a subtle belief in scarcity.   The idea that there aren’t enough “good men” to go around seems to be an epidemic amongst our women.  I equate this mentality as being similar to trying to find […]

Should Your ‘Ex’ Be Excommunicated?


  TREO In regards to being friends with your EX, it depends on the person. There isn’t always a cookie cutter approach to love. This boot camp was designed to provide you with the proper tools so you can make the best decision for you. With that said, some people can be friends with an EX (even when they are in a new relationship) and everything is fine. However, don’t think for a second that something is wrong if someone doesn’t want […]

Your Mind Is A Magnent


Treo Usually before someone takes my 60/40 workshop on finding and keeping your ideal partner I give them some sort of homework assignment. This particular class I wanted them to get familiar with the Law of Attraction. Here is what the young lady sent to me.   Her In “The Secret” I identified with the scene where the guy painted pictures of women with their backs turned to him but wondered why he was unlucky in love. When he started […]

Exploring Your History To Create Your Future


    Recently I was having lunch with my father at one of my favorite restaurants. Somewhere in the conversation I started to tell him about something I was thinking of adding to my book but I had no idea my thoughts would change mid conversation. I always knew that whenever I eat a loaf of bread at home I always skip the first piece which is also one of the end pieces. As a child I would wait until […]