Dating And Relationship Advice: You Asked But Didn’t Listen


Dating And Relationship Advice: You Asked But Didn’t Listen (Written by Jasmine Davis: Clinical Psychology Doctoral Student and educator of Human Sexuality.)     Years ago an ex-boyfriend of mine told me “Don’t ask questions that you don’t want to know the answers to. And don’t go looking for things you don’t really want to find.” He was a cheater. Still, he’s right. However, this post is not about cheating. His words apply to so many things, and they came to […]

Thinking of Wetting Your Toes or Diving in the Online Dating Pool


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    Thinking of Wetting Your Toes or Diving in the Online Dating Pool (Written by Jasmine Davis: Clinical Psychology Doctoral Student and educator of Human Sexuality.) I love to talk about all things love, relationship, and dating related and some things sex related. In the age of technology, online dating is a part of that conversation.  If you haven’t tried online dating for yourself like 41 million other people in the U.S. have according to the website Statistic Brain and […]

A Letter To Cookie Lyon Part 1


    Hello Cookie. I know you have been held down by your family. I know you have been held down by your job. I know you have been held down by life for so long that your epic dream of finding your Lucius  Lyon has become more like a passive after thought.   Not the Lucius who is about to take his company public and can’t decide which woman he wants to  spend the rest of his life with. […]

The Quick Sand Of Love


  Tiffany recently came to me requesting my assistance in navigating through her perceived difficult love life. Her and her boyfriend recently made it official just a few short days ago and she was a little worried that this situation would turnout just like all the others in her past. Far too many people make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions and Tiffany knew this very well since reading the book “Never Settle: The Essential Guide to Finding and Keeping […]

What’s Cooking In Your Love Life?


    I met my wife in 1999-2001 when we were in College. We were not romantically involved, but would see each other on campus often. I had no reason to believe that one day we would be married. It was almost like the master chef was preparing the greatest meal. Sometimes you have to let things marinate for a certain amount of time. God didn’t bring us together then because He knew we wouldn’t have been right for each other at that time. […]

UnTrustworthy Love


  I was coaching a woman in her mid-30’s who told a white lie early on in her last “situationship” and got caught. Since then, an underlying theme in that relationship became that she was untrustworthy; at least in his mind.  Once that relationship was completed, she carried that DRD (dating related disease) with her. We sometimes allow the past to be the pesky condition that restrains us from living unafraid. All that really happened was he said she was untrustworthy. It really didn’t […]

Focus On The Road!


While I was on my way to an event last week, I had an interesting incident take place on the highway. I was in the middle lane and I noticed there was a car approaching me on the right side. I didn’t think I needed to pay much attention to it as long as I stayed in my lane. That car was in a lane that would be ending in about another mile from where I was because it would […]

What’s Gotten Into You?


   I recently had a a personal session with a young lady participating in my 6 week workshop. I challenged her to start identifying the things that have influenced her love life. Often times people don’t realize that their focus is on something that doesn’t serve them in any way. In most cases people don’t even know this never mind work on changing it. Television, Movies, music, social media and a list of other things constantly fight for mental real estate […]

Think Your Way Out Of Your Current Situation


  One of my clients had to spend a few days in the hospital. She mentioned to me that she was ready to leave, but had no idea how long they would keep her in the hospital. Below is what I shared with her and her response just a day later:   TREO “I want you to take at least 30 minutes to close your eyes and really imagine walking out of the hospital tomorrow. In your mind, I want you to map out […]

What Destination Do You Have In Your Love GPS?


  TREO We all have an idea of what we think love should be. Usually we get that idea from the things we have seen, heard and experienced. I love this short story from a young lady in our 60/40 workshop because it shows how sometimes we can discover our beliefs and challenge them if we choose to. What we believe shapes our life.   Her Words… So I spent some time as of late dating. After doing some personal […]